I never post any more. It's not like I don't have the time. I have no excuses. But there is something on my mind that needs working out.
I have a friend, Jess. She's 21. An old 21. A mature for her age 21... but she is still 21. There are different aspects of her personality that I recognize in myself from that time. Mostly the quick to judge/holding a grudge portion of myself. I'm not saying that I am no longer quick to judge... I am working on it. Mostly because my first impression is usually intimidation. But it's the grudge thing that gets me. I was talking about some guy in the ward and she immediately said she didn't like him.
Is there any reason? Has he done something to you?
No. That's just my initial impressions. They're usually not wrong.
This surprised me. Partially because the guy in question is dating another friend of mine and obviously knows this man and she speaks very highly of him, especially when it comes to aspects of the gospel. This is certainly not a side Jess has seen. And heck! I haven't even really spoken to him, so I know my initial impressions are wrong. Mine usually are.
Especially since I was talking to Tom last night about one of his roommates. One that comes off as snooty and as if everyone is beneath him. This is not really my impression of him but I have heard from several people something along these lines. I made some comment to Tom, asking how it is living with him. I could almost see reprimand in his eyes as he talked about how great he is and that people judge him too strongly. Mind, this particular gent has never been anything but nice to me, so I really don't have a problem with him. Although when I have spoken this to some.. the immediate response is.. "Well... he never talks to me-." or he WOULD never talk to me. How was that actually said.. I dont remember.. But in all actuality.. I think I initially started talking TO HIM. It's interesting how terrible or snooty someone might seem when you are ten feet away judging them.
SO now I am re-evaluating all of my impressions of people. Why do I hold on to other peoples opinions of people rather than finding out for myself!?
Things to consider on a Monday.
1 comment:
The eternal struggle continues. I too find myself making judgements on people that, for the most part, turn out to be incorrect.
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